((4/4/19: [Update since this was published]: Loneliness is those in-between moments. Loneliness is when stillness creeps in unexpectedly. Loneliness is when you want to make plans but no one is available and you’re forced to be with yourself. We fill that void in order to evade the uneasiness that loneliness makes us feel. Those in-between moments are far and few if you’re like me. But, be comfortable in stillness. Practice it. Embrace it. Learn from it. Grow with it. No need in avoiding it, let it teach you what you need to know.))
Loneliness can get you into trouble but don’t avoid it like the plague.
Welcome loneliness in like an old friend and when it’s time for them to leave-let it go.
Watch your thoughts, don’t judge the feelings, allow them to be present.
Loneliness can be so unbearable at times and it’s so uncomfortable to experience but if you just allow yourself to be present, aware in the moment, feel what you feel and go through the wave-you’ll come to realize that you’re only human.
Sometimes I wonder why we get ourselves into such dilemmas trying to avert ourselves from loneliness. Does it really feel that bad for that long that you can’t just flow with the moment in it? And I am not meaning to come off as judgmental but merely curious about other’s experiences and thoughts circulating loneliness.
This has been an undeveloped thought of mine-I haven’t thought too hard on the topic but I am so fascinated by all things lonely. My inspiration came from Olivia Laing’s The Lonely City-which is a fabulous read I must admit.
We sometimes wind up doing things to ourselves that can lead to hurting others and ourselves straight out of fear of being lonely. It makes me wonder is that why we stay in relationships we know aren’t right for us? Because we let our limiting beliefs, fears and judgments convince us that somehow we will end up alone and unhappy for a long period of time? I wonder that from time to time because I would have those kind of doubts myself when I was contemplating getting out of a relationship.
I want to further explore this topic and get some feedback. Why do you think we avoid loneliness like an illness? Why is there such stigma towards it? Why can’t we respect it and view it as a developmental growth and as being independent? All thoughts are welcomed and this is a judgment free zone!
Have a beautiful day, lovelies!